Ain't No Empty Chair

I spent some time with my extended family recently. They are full of life, tons of fun, and boiling over with jokes and one-liners. My favorite crack of the visit came about when one of the oldest members of the family was asked about her husband's health. He has had some small strokes and TIAs, and is left with physical impairments, but he really is in good shape given all he has been through, as evidenced by his skills at playing corn hole! At one point the question arose, "How is he doing these days" to which his wife responded "Ain't no empty chair". Translation for those of you who don't speak sarcasm or Appalachian... He is alive, he is here, and what more could we ask for.

My personal thought, and professional one as well is that we can ask for a lot more!! In fact when I see people who have dealt with illness, strokes, falls, health problems in general keep on moving through life, being active, staying social, it makes me so very happy. Quality of life means a lot, and throughout the long weekend with my family I heard them talk about bowling, traveling, parties and gatherings with their friends. I watched some bike, take walks or run. Some played games, cards, or shot pool. Some chased and wrestled with the little ones, there was singing and storytelling galore, and let's not forget the hysterical belly laughing that occurred on a frequent basis. In this microcosm of the Cooks I saw that QUALITY of life was in the forefront of every single moment, interaction, and decision made despite the fact that the words, if taken literally and out of context, pointed to a less fulfilled existence.

I have always been inspired by the way my family has lived, and their boisterous approach to the world and their lives. Each and every single family member is just a blast to be around. This visit I was in awe of the energy that continues throughout their aging. What I know from spending time with my fabulous people is that we have an advantage. We value the fun, the joy, the happiness created through experiences we choose. How lucky I am to have such wonderful role models for aging. So even if you ask how I'm doing and my response is "Ain't no empty chair" know that in actuality I am probably dancing on the chair and smiling because I know there is just more good to come!